Uncommon Leaders: Who Is In Your Five?

12/6–UNCOMMEN Leaders: Who’s in Your Five?

Leadership guru Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

An old mobile marketing campaign asked, “Who’s in your five?”

It’s common for guys in their 20’s can rattle off names quickly. On their wedding day, you’ll find their five flanking them. But it doesn’t take long for those five to start fading from the picture. It’s natural to lose friends over time. People change. People move. All too often, few take their place.

We become known more by our titles, our accomplishments, or our kids. Increasingly we are known as “the boss,” “the guy who built that company, “runs in those triathlons,” or “Johnny’s dad.”

We become known by what we do more than who we are. In an article titled, “The Friendship Crisis,” The Washington Post recently quoted from an American Sociological Review stating “that the number of close friends for adults is declining, with the modal number of close friendship in 1985 being three, while in 2004 the modal number was zero. 

The percentage of adults who report having no close friends at all has increased from 36 percent in 1985 to 53.4 percent by 2004.”

An ancient Proverb says, “An isolated man seeks out his own desires (or can be translated: destruction), he breaks out against all sound judgement.”

Isolated men create chaos. Their names litter the headlines, our prisons, and our neighborhoods. Men who shoot up movie theaters, live a double life, or simply escape to a virtual world after work.

Back in 1965, Martin Luther King Jr said, “What we are facing today is the fact that through our scientific and technological genius we’ve made of this world a neighborhood. 

And now through our moral and ethical commitment we must make of it a brotherhood.”

Leadership can be lonely, but you don’t have to go it alone.

Guys in your five ask you the tough questions. They challenge you to risk. They give you permission to be who you are. They value you for who you are more than what you do.

So it begs the question, “Who’s in your five?” And if you are struggling to lift up more than one or two fingers, it’s time to build your brotherhood.

Schedule a lunch or virtual coffee with them. Reconnect. Be challenged. Watch your leadership deepen.

Be UNCOMMEN.

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Can You Spare A Minute 12/6?

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12/6 Can You Spare A Minute Or So 12/6?

12/6–From the diary of John Wesley. . .

Sunday, A.M., May 5    Preached in St. Anne’s. Was asked not to come back anymore.

Sunday, P.M., May 5     Preached in St. John’s. Deacons said “Get out and stay out.”

Sunday, A.M., May 12    Preached in St. Jude’s. Can’t go back there, either.

Sunday, A.M., May 19    Preached in St. Somebody Else’s. Deacons called special meeting and said I couldn’t return.

Sunday, P.M., May 19    Preached on street. Kicked off street.

Sunday, A.M., May 26    Preached in meadow. Chased out of meadow as bull was turned loose during service.

Sunday, A.M., June 2    Preached out at the edge of town. Kicked off the highway.

Sunday, P.M., June 2    Afternoon, preached in a pasture. Ten thousand people came out to hear me. 

John Wesley.

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Start Your Day Off Right Series 12/6

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12/6–Start Your Day Off Right Series

Quote:

12/6–If You Can Only Reach One Person

Story:

12/6–Once there was a hunter out hunting bears. The hunter spotted a bear and carefully raise his rifle and took aim. 

He was just about to pull the trigger when he heard a voice say: “Wait Mr. Hunter”! 

The voice came from the bear. The bear continued to say: “Let’s sit down and talk things over.” The hunter lowered his rifle and sat down on a log with the bear. 

The bear said to the hunter: “Let’s try to be reasonable and reach a compromise. “

The hunter took off his hat and scratched his head and said okay. 

The bear asked the hunter just what was it that he wanted. 

The hunter said: “A fur coat.” 

The bear replied: “That sounds reasonable.” 

The bear went on to say: “All I want is a full stomach.” That sounded fair enough too. 

So the hunter and the bear discussed things a little more. 

Then suddenly after a flurry of activity, the bear was alone. 

The bear had his full-stomach, and the hunter was inside the fur coat. 

Sometimes it is better to be a little cold and go without than to get wrapped up in unnecessary luxury items.

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Scripture:

Hebrews 2:3

How shall we escape, if we neglect so great salvation; which at the first began to be spoken by the Lord, and was confirmed unto us by them that heard him;

Humor:

The story is told of three very well-to-do fellows who encountered a ferocious storm while sailing their yacht.

They were capsized and washed up on an uninhabited island. The radio equipment was destroyed in the storm. It was truly a Gilligan moment.

They looked for wood to build a fire and hopefully attract a search and rescue party. No luck John took a passive approach to the whole experience and spent his time lounging on the white sandy beach while the other two frantically searched for a means of rescue.

John’s two friends chastised him severely for his apparent unconcern. John just chipped away at a coconut and stared at the peaceful waves.

“But I am a Christian and a multi-millionaire”’ John shot back.

“Well, a lot of good that will do you out here in the middle of nowhere”, they complained.

John responded, “No, you do not understand. You see, I am very active in my church and I am a tither – I guarantee that my pastor will find us before Sunday!!”

Fill Someone Else’s Cup

Fill Someone Else’s Cup

There are people who want you to fill their cup one day and then they’re back the next with their cup again for you to fill it back up! They seemingly never think about filling someone else’s cup up. 

They are definitely on the Me channel and only thinking about themselves! 

Philippians 2: 3-4 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. 

If I put you up higher than myself, and you put me higher than yourself we should be eye to eye, and on the same level. If I fill your cup up then some of the overflow may rundown on to me! Start in today trying to make others your focus. It seems that nearly everyone wants to be served but few want to serve. 

To be the greatest in the Kingdom we must be first like Jesus, and be able to serve. To be great in the Kingdom you have to be willing to be servant of all. 

God loves humbleness and hates pride. Jesus was a King but took on the form of a servant. He left us the example to follow. That’s why Ok at the Lord’s Supper he girded himself with a towel and began to wash the Disciples feet. We have to lay our bib down to grab the towel.

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Start Your Day Off Right Series 12/5

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12/5–Start Your Day Off Right Series 

Quote:

12/5–

Church Signs:

Dear God,

If I am WRONG,

RIGHT ME!

If I am LOST,

GUIDE ME!

If I start TO GIVE UP,

KEEP ME GOING!

And, God forbid, if I ever start to FORGET what you did for me,

RENEW my mind, soul and heart to YOUR WAYS!!

Story:

12/5–An 87 Year Old College Student Named Rose

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know.

I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me

with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, “Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?”

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.

Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.

She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids…”

No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. 

Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was

introduced and stepped up to the podium.

As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. 

Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.”

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. 

You have to laugh and find humor every day.

You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.

We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.

If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old.

If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.

Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change.

Have no regrets.

The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those

with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.”

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s

never too late to be all you can possibly be .When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they’ll really enjoy it!

These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.

REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS

OPTIONAL.

We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.

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Scripture:

Hebrews 9:27

And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:

Humor:

An old bachelor was diagnosed with a terminal disease and given six months to live. The doctor advised, “I recommend that you marry a woman with six kids, move to Oklahoma, and buy 100 hogs to raise.”

The patient asked, “Doc, will that make me happy and live longer?” The doctor replied, “I doubt it, but it will be the longest six months of your life.” All of us have our definition of happiness. So does the Bible!

How To Navigate Life’s Storms

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Acts 27:13-44 And when the south wind blew softly, supposing that they had obtained their purpose, loosing thence, they sailed close by Crete. But not long after there arose against it a tempestuous wind, called Euroclydon. And when the ship was caught, and could not bear up into the wind, we let her drive. And running under a certain island which is called Clauda, we had much work to come by the boat: Which when they had taken up, they used helps, undergirding the ship; and, fearing lest they should fall into the quicksands, strake sail, and so were driven. And we being exceedingly tossed with a tempest, the next day they lightened the ship; And the third day we cast out with our own hands the tackling of the ship. And when neither sun nor stars in many days appeared, and no small tempest lay on us, all hope that we should be saved was then taken away. But after long abstinence Paul stood forth in the midst of them, and said, Sirs, ye should have hearkened unto me, and not have loosed from Crete, and to have gained this harm and loss. And now I exhort you to be of good cheer: for there shall be no loss of any man’s life among you, but of the ship. For there stood by me this night the angel of God, whose I am, and whom I serve, Saying, Fear not, Paul; thou must be brought before Caesar: and, lo, God hath given thee all them that sail with thee. Wherefore, sirs, be of good cheer: for I believe God, that it shall be even as it was told me. Howbeit we must be cast upon a certain island. But when the fourteenth night was come, as we were driven up and down in Adria, about midnight the shipmen deemed that they drew near to some country; And sounded, and found it twenty fathoms: and when they had gone a little further, they sounded again, and found it fifteen fathoms. Then fearing lest we should have fallen upon rocks, they cast four anchors out of the stern, and wished for the day. And as the shipmen were about to flee out of the ship, when they had let down the boat into the sea, under colour as though they would have cast anchors out of the foreship, Paul said to the centurion and to the soldiers, Except these abide in the ship, ye cannot be saved. Then the soldiers cut off the ropes of the boat, and let her fall off. And while the day was coming on, Paul besought them all to take meat, saying, This day is the fourteenth day that ye have tarried and continued fasting, having taken nothing. Wherefore I pray you to take some meat: for this is for your health: for there shall not an hair fall from the head of any of you. And when he had thus spoken, he took bread, and gave thanks to God in presence of them all: and when he had broken it, he began to eat. Then were they all of good cheer, and they also took some meat. And we were in all in the ship two hundred threescore and sixteen souls. And when they had eaten enough, they lightened the ship, and cast out the wheat into the sea. And when it was day, they knew not the land: but they discovered a certain creek with a shore, into the which they were minded, if it were possible, to thrust in the ship. And when they had taken up the anchors, they committed themselves unto the sea, and loosed the rudder bands, and hoised up the mainsail to the wind, and made toward shore. And falling into a place where two seas met, they ran the ship aground; and the forepart stuck fast, and remained unmoveable, but the hinder part was broken with the violence of the waves. And the soldiers’ counsel was to kill the prisoners, lest any of them should swim out, and escape. But the centurion, willing to save Paul, kept them from their purpose; and commanded that they which could swim should cast themselves first into the sea, and get to land: And the rest, some on boards, and some on broken pieces of the ship. And so it came to pass, that they escaped all safe to land.

Start Your Day Off Right Series 12/4

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12/4–Start Your Day Off Right Series 

Quote:

12/4–Adversity—If We Had No Winter

Story:

12/4–So when will I die?

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Scripture:

1 Corinthians 15:55

O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?

Humor:

Three men attended the funeral of a mutual acquaintance. The threesome began talking and speculating concerning what they would want people to say about them if they were the deceased.

Bill said, “I want people to say ‘he was a generous man.’” John then added, “I would want everyone to say that I was kind and considerate.” The other two nodded. Ricky, always the prankster, shot back, “I want them to say, ‘Look, he’s moving.’”